As mentioned in the previous post, this journey of getting in shape will result in failure.
A lot of failure.
But this is not only okay, it is expected.
In order to learn how to do something correctly, you have to learn how to do it incorrectly first. This gives your brain the chance to process a mistake, analyze why it was a mistake and then try again with newly integrated information. This, in a nutshell, is the learning process.
The Steps to Overcoming Failure
To summarize this, let's take quitting soda as an example. Your first goal might be to limit drinking soda to once per day for two weeks. However, on day 12, you give in and bathe in its glorious syrupy sweetness.
At this point, you have reached a fork in the road. You can now choose to either:
A) Hate yourself, hate soda, hate the world and admit you'll never be good enough
B) Admit that you gave in because, god damn it, you wanted some comfort food
For those that picked A, hatred/disgust/loathing is not going to get you anywhere. It keeps you from improving because it neuters the power you give yourself by placing the responsibility on others. ProTip: you're the only one that can change your habits.
For those that picked B, you're on the right track. Also notice here to use of the word "want" over the word "need". If you're going to really take control of your actions, you need to use these words correctly. Unless you will literally die without the noun in question, it's a want. Period.
Once Step 1 is achieved, move on to Step 2 immediately. Usually one week out is always a great time to get back on the horse because we love starting things on a new week.
A Note on Acceptance
For most of us, acceptance is the hardest part. It's never easy to admit we're not as strong as we thought. What makes it even harder is if we talk ourselves up as being big, bad toughies that can quit whenever we want only to find quitting isn't so easy. But once we learn how to let go of this pride and admit we aren't as awesome as we think we are, we can learn how to improve. Through admittance, we accept the responsibility that we do have power over our actions, however small it may seem.
A Note on Trying Again
Do not wait too long to try again. Always make sure you get back on it within at least a month. If you don't, you run the risk of giving up altogether.
Co-host of HeroesForge, founder of Battle to Be Better, gamer, singer and all around happy person.